Are you in crisis and in need of immediate assistance?
If you are looking at this because you are currently in crisis and in urgent need of assistance, then detailed below are some organisations that may be able to support you. Please pick up the phone and make the call, text, or click the link – there are people available right now who want to help you. Due to the cost of living crisis, some services may change their hours of operations.
- Breathing Space
- CALM
- Childline
- Papyrus
- Samaritans
- Victim Support Scotland
- LGBT Helpline Scotland
- RELEASE #chatitout
- THE SURVIVORS TRUST
- SHOUT - Text SHOUT to 85258
- THE MIX - Text THEMIX to 85258
Our Useful Links section is always being expanded. If you feel your organisation/service would be beneficial or of interest to our Clients, please contact us to add your details. For details of other Survivor support agencies in Scotland.
- AMIS
- Breathing Space Scotland
- Child Protection Scotland
- Children 1st
- Citizens Advice Direct - Advice.Scot
- Combat Stress
- East Ayrshire Advocacy Services
- Future Pathways
- Kooth Online Mental Health & Wellbeing
- LGBT Helpline Scotland
- LGBT Youth Scotland
- Moving On
- NHS 24 Helpline
- National Male Survivor Helpline
- Samaritans
- Scottish Association for Mental Health (SAMH)
- Scottish Domestic Abuse Helpline
- Star Centre
- Victim Support Scotland
- VoiceAbility
Internet browsers will save information/data as you surf the internet, eg. pages you may have visited, searches you have made – this creates your search history. We are aware that you may not wish others to see our website details in your search history for confidentiality reasons.
If you wish to reduce the likelihood of someone seeing which sites you have visited, or searches you have made there are some steps which you can take including deleting your Browser History.
Please be aware that all internet browsers and personal computer settings are different and may have other features installed and therefore these steps may not completely hide your tracks as some browser types have features that display recently visited sites. Software can also log where you’ve been and what you’ve keyed on your computer.
There is a lot of information on hiding your tracks on the internet and we hope this short guidance is useful. Please also be aware that search history is also recorded/logged if you are using a mobile device.
If you have accessed some of our links you should also check to see if they appear in your “downloaded items” folder and remove them.
Deleting Browsing History
To clear your search history for the various browsers, take the following steps as detailed below:
Firefox – Hold down [Ctrl], then press the [H] key.
Find entries that start with www.breakthesilence.org.uk
Use [Right Click], [Delete] to erase.
Internet Explorer – Hold down [Ctrl], then press the [H] key. Alternatively click on the star in the top right-hand corner and then click on the ‘History’ tab. Use the drop down menu at the top of the tab to select ‘Search History’. Find entries that start with www.breakthesilence.org.uk – Use Right Click, [Delete] to erase.
Safari – Choose History > Clear History, click the pop-up menu, then choose how far back you want your browsing history cleared.
Google Chrome – Open Chrome, at the top right, click [More], click [History]. On the left, click [Clear browsing data]. From the drop-down menu, select how much history you want to delete. Check the boxes for the info you want Chrome to clear, including ‘browsing history’. Click [Clear data].
Netscape 7 – Click on the edit menu and select Preferences. In the left pane, expand History then in the right area click Clear History.
Opera – Click on ‘Tools’ and then ‘Preferences’. Click on ‘Advanced Tab’ and then ‘History’ section on the left-hand side. Click the ‘Clear’ button to the right of ‘Addresses’ and the ‘Empty Now’ button to the right of Disk Cache.
Private Browsing
If you plan to visit our website on a regular basis you can use “private browsing” mode before you begin your search or before keying in www.breakthesilence.org.uk which, once enabled will ensure nothing in that browsing session is stored in your history or web cache.
You will need to do this each time before you begin your search or visit the site.
To turn this on:-
Internet Explorer: Click on Settings in the top right-hand corner, Go to [Safety], [InPrivate Browsing].
Firefox: Click [Menu] button with three horizontal lines [New Private Window].
Chrome: Click [Menu] button with three horizontal dots and select [New Incognito Window].
Similar options can be found in Safari and other browsers.
You may however wish to verify that private browsing has been successful and that no history has been logged – use the delete history instructions above.
Cookies/Auto-Forms
Web cookies are small text files that are placed in your browser or desktop by web servers. This is used to store information and track your web activity.
Internet Explorer
Click on [Settings], [Internet Options], Under Browsing History in the General Tab, Click [Delete], Then select the Cookies option then [Delete], OK.
Firefox
Click [Tools], [Options], Click [Privacy]. Click [remove individual cookies] then [Remove All], [Close].
Safari
Expand Privacy and Security and select Cookies then on the button Manage Stored Cookies and in the new dialog box click Remove All Cookies. Then repeat similar Forms and the Manage Stored Form Data button and the same for Passwords and the Manage Stored Passwords button. Additionally, you may Manage Forms, Cookies and Passwords individually from the Tools menu – but not the temporary page Cache files.
Opera
Opera doesn’t have an easy way to clear all Cookies but use instructions above to delete the internet browser.
Toolbars
Toolbars such as Google, AOL and Yahoo keep a record of the search words you have typed into the toolbar search box. In order to erase all the search words you have typed in, you need to check the individual instructions for each type of toolbar. Eg. On the Google toolbar, you need to click on the Google icon and choose “Clear Search History”.
General Safety
If your computer does not have a password access set up then other users can access your e-mail as well as your internet history.
You may wish to consider using internet access at a local library, a trusted friend’s house or, if permitted, at work.
Detailed below are some agencies that provide support to Survivors. Inspiring Scotland who manage the SOCAS fund on behalf of Scottish Government have also published a Survivor Directory.
- Survivor Directory
- Argyll and Bute Rape Crisis
- Carr Gomm
- Eighteen and Under (Scotland wide)
- First Tier
- Future Pathways (World-wide for Scottish Survivors In Care)
- Glasgow Council on Alcohol
- Hear Me (Angus and surrounding area)
- HSTAR Scotland
- Izzy's Promise
- KASP
- Kibble Education Centre
- Lucy Faithfull Foundation
- Mind Mosaic Counselling & Therapy (Inverclyde)
- Moira Anderson Foundation (Scotland wide)
- Moray Rape Crisis
- Moving On (Ayrshire) (South Ayrshire)
- North Ayrshire Women’s Aid
- Orkney Blide Trust
- Rape Crisis Scotland (Scotland wide)
- Rape And Sexual Abuse Service Highland (RASASH)
- Safe Space (Fife)
- SAY Women (Glasgow/Scotland)
- Scots Recovery from Childhood Abuse
- Shetland Rape Crisis
- Speak Out Scotland
- Stop It Now! Scotland (Scotland wide)
- Survivors Unite
- Talk Now (South Lanarkshire)
- Thriving Survivors (Glasgow)
- Wellbeing Scotland (Scotland wide)
- Western Isles Rape Crisis Centre
- With-Kids
Young Survivors: Understanding & Thriving After Abuse
A free course for young survivors of childhood sexual abuse, created by our clinical lead Melanie Fieldhouse with input from survivors and young people. With this course we help you consider what you’ve been through, discover local support, and learn calming techniques. An opportunity to begin the process of healing and thriving.
Online self help tool
This free tool, reviewed by our client led advisory group, offers self-help suggestions to help support you while you wait to gain access to our counselling service. It includes an overview of what you can expect from our service, access to our survivor’s guide, relaxing audio and video resources and other useful resources.
If you have any feedback or suggestions that you think might be useful please get in touch.
Online self help tool – Partners & Family Members
This free tool, offers suggestions to help support partners and family members. The tool aims to improve understanding the impact of sexual trauma, building awareness around how to support your partner, child, or family member and recognising the importance of your own self-care.
If you have any feedback or suggestions that you think might be useful please get in touch.
Survivor Guide
Break The Silence worked closely with our Client Led Advisory Group to produce a Survivor Guide booklet which you may find helpful. In addition to the Survivor Guide, the Client Led Advisory Group also helped develop a trauma card – a small plastic credit card sized card which can be presented in challenging situations. It carried no Break The Silence branding and provides a description of complex trauma. If you would like to have a copy of this card, please contact our office.
Surviving Better Booklet - Dr Sarah Nelson
An information pack for Survivors of childhood sexual abuse. This booklet is available courtesy of Wellbeing Scotland and we thank them for their consent to share it within our resources.
Video & Audio Meditation & Relaxation Resources
Relaxation Meditation Audio for Clients courtesy of Maureen Leggat:
Bubble Fantasy Journey Audio courtesy of Maureen Leggat:
Relaxation Video courtesy of Michael J Malone, Break The Silence Trustee, Award Winning Author, Therapist and Mentor.
One hour video: Bilateral Music Collection to help lower anxiety – for meditation/relaxation:
Butterfly Hug technique from Stress Busters to help calm the body and help you to relax:
Dr Karen Treisman, Clinical Psychologist - Resources in response to Pandemic
Dr Karen Treisman has sent Break The Silence a link through to a web-page which she has created in response to the pandemic. There are a range of resources which are all free; videos, podcasts, webinars, and resources for children, adults, parents and staff. Karen is also working on online modules on grief and loss, and on all 5 of her children’s workbooks (self-esteem/emotional regulation/nightmares/anxiety/trust after abuse).
Dr Karen Treisman is a Highly Specialist Clinical Psychologist who has worked in the NHS and children’s services for several years. Karen has also worked cross-culturally in both Africa and Asia with groups ranging from former child soldiers to survivors of the Rwandan Genocide.
Karen has extensive experience in the areas of trauma, parenting, and attachment, and works clinically using a range of therapeutic approaches with families, systems and children in or on the edge of care, unaccompanied asylum-seeking young people, and adopted children.
In addition to holding a doctorate in Clinical psychology, Karen has undergone a range of specialist trainings including in EMDR, Narrative Therapy, Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, Sensory Attachment Intervention, and Theraplay.
Karen has previously worked in both Milton Keynes’s and Kensington and Chelsea’s Looked after Children (LAC) and fostering services, and within the National Implementation Service for evidence-based interventions for Looked after children, children on the edge of care, and children in custody at the Michael Rutter Centre in the Maudsley Hospital; and as a Clinical Lead for a court assessment and intensive parenting intervention team for children on the edge of care and in proceedings within Islington.
Karen is the director of Safe Hands and Thinking Minds training and consultancy services.
Karen is an external consultant, trainer, and assessor to Barnardos, PAC-UK, Hope for families, Three Steps Ireland, Pause, CoramBAAF, Grandparents Plus, and the Fostering Network.
Karen is a member of the CoramBAAF health group advisory committee, and a reviewer for the Journal of Adoption and Fostering.
Karen regularly presents at local, national, and international trauma, parenting, and attachment conferences. Including being a TEDx speaker.
Karen was awarded a Winston Churchill Fellowship Award to research best and innovative practice in supporting organisations to become more adversity, culturally, and trauma-informed, infused, and responsive. Karen was awarded Psychologist of the Year in 2018.
Karen is the best-selling author of “Working with children and adolescents who have experience relational and developmental trauma” (Routledge, 2016); and “A Therapeutic Treasure Box for Working with children and adolescents who have experienced developmental trauma” (2017); and two sets of therapeutic treasure deck of cards (2018). Karen is also the author of the therapeutic treasure collection including Gilly the Giraffe (Self-esteem, self-belief, and confidence), Neon the Ninja (Nightmares and sleep difficulties), Presley the Pug (relaxation and emotional regulation), Cleo the Croc (trust, and relationships), and Binnie the Baboon (anxiety, fear, and stress).
Pregnancy, Parenting and Maternity Care
As part of #MaternalMentalHealthAwareness week in May 2020, we shared some videos from Midwives in order to provide some re-assurance to Survivors going through pregnancy, maternity care, or parenting. You may find these videos helpful.
Geraldine Butcher, Midwife and Trainer for Break The Silence recorded a short message:
Michelle Wright, Midwife and Survivor sends you a special message…
Mentioned in the videos was the development of SIPPAM (Survivors in Pregnancy, Parenting and Maternity Care), a closed facebook group
Break The Silence Client Led Advisory Group have also put together some information for Survivors contained within the Survivor Guide that you may find useful in relation to pregnancy and our CEO-Clinical, Sharon Belshaw, MSc has also published an article for the British Journal of Midwifery on supporting Survivors.
Calm Harm - an app to help manage self-harm
Calm Harm is an downloadable app.
It provides tasks to help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm. Get started by setting your password so that it’s completely private.
You can personalise it if you wish, by choosing the background colour theme and deciding on whether you would like some company using a variety of friendly characters.
The app then provides you with four categories of tasks to help you surf the urge. ‘Distract’ helps in learning self-control; ‘Comfort’ helps you care rather than harm; ‘Express yourself’ gets those feelings out in a different way and ‘Release’ provides safe alternatives to self-injury.
There is also a ‘Breathe’ category to help calm and get back in control.
You can do the activities for either blocks of five minutes or fifteen minutes with a countdown for each minute. You will be able to track your progress and notice change*.
Calm Harm has been developed for stem4 by Dr Krause, Consultant Clinical Psychologist using the basic principles of an evidence based treatment called Dialectic Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
(*Please note the app is an aid in treatment but does not replace it.)
Psychotherapist, Marc Johnson - Timeline Map - Pluralistic Therapy
Psychotherapist, Marc Johnson has developed this fantastic new introduction on developing a timeline map, which can be used at assessment in pluralistic therapy.
Matthew McVarish - The Truth That No One Tells Teenagers
A video from Matthew to our Clients during the pandemic:
Matthew McVarish is a Scottish actor, writer, activist and survivor of childhood sexual abuse. With an MA in acting from the Royal Conservatoire of Scotland, he has appeared on Taggart, River City and starred daily on CBeebies as “Raymond” in “Me Too!” Last year, Matthew toured Scotland playing “Titus”, a ten-year-old boy attempting suicide, in a sensitive production aimed at encouraging healthy discussion of childhood depression in schools. He has most recently returned from the New York production of Love Song to Lavender Menace, a reprise of the 5* show from last year’s Edinburgh Festival, about Scotland’s first LGBT bookshop in 1987.
As a playwright, Matthew’s debut show, To Kill a Kelpie, also ran Off-Broadway then toured the USA, and is currently being translated for an upcoming production in Paris. Another of his plays, Remember You Are Beauty Full, was described by The Herald as “the best play in any theatre in the country this year!” His other works include Kind Stranger, starring Tom Urie, and The Child Made of Love about same-sex adoption, starring Andrew Agnew, Balamory’s PC Plum.
Matthew walked 10,000 miles, visiting every EU capital on foot, campaigning for the abolition of the statute of limitations on reporting child sexual abuse. His walk encouraged various governments to table motions in their parliament. In some countries, Matthew is now the first male survivor to have ever spoken publicly about having been sexually abused. He was granted an honorary doctorate and received the prestigious “Top Scot” award (previous “Top Scots” include JK Rowling and Andy Murray).
The Scottish Government commissioned Matthew to write a paper on his work. Entitled “The Quality of Silence”, it outlines the varied sociological, economic and cultural obstacles to reporting childhood sexual abuse faced by survivors in over forty different countries where he has worked. He has given lectures on his paper at the UN, Iceland, Serbia, Scotland’s Police College and given the Moira Jones Address at the Crown Office and Procurator Fiscal Sexual Crimes Conference.
Now an official delegate of the United Nations in New York, he has chaired numerous global discussions on children’s rights for the UN and co-created the world’s first Global Survivor Forum with ECPAT international in Bangkok.
Originally a client of the Moira Anderson Foundation, Matthew is proud to be their International Ambassador.
His new book, The Truth That No One Tells Teenagers: Ten Facts Every Teen Victim Has the Right to Know, written for teen survivors on how to recover from abuse, was published in 2019 and is currently available on Amazon. He hopes, one day, all children will understand the actual truth that they are awesome.
Break The Silence have secured multiple copies of Matthew’s book to have available for our Counsellors to provide to our young Survivors to help them on their recovery journey.
If you wish a copy of Matthew’s book, it is available to download or to order on Amazon (Don’t forget to use Amazon Smile to make a charitable donation):
Janina Fisher, PhD - Re-activate the traima impacted brain worksheets
A free download from Janina Fisher, PhD on re-activating the trauma impacted brain – worksheets.
Victims' Code Scotland & Victims' Rights
Read the Victims Code Scotland
Did you know that there is a publication about Victims’ Rights in Scotland?
Police Scotland - Information for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse
Police Scotland has launched their “Information for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse” Animation Film, which has been produced following extensive consultation with Survivors and Survivor support services with funding from Scottish Government.
Police Scotland have also launched an information leaflet.
Impact of Trauma on the Brain
Some Survivors have also found this short video helpful in understanding the impact of trauma on the brain. It was produced by NHS Lanarkshire EVA Services:
Tips for Watching Triggering Media (courtesy of The Survivors Trust)
The Survivors Trust produced this useful tips/guide for coping with triggering media.





